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We Each Have Our Own Journey To Travel In This life, Make No Apologies

by Blossoming Widow January 19, 2019
Make no apologies

 

I sat stunned into silence when a statement was made to me that would mark my life forever.  My late husband, Brad, and I were at An Oasis Of Healing, an all natural cancer treatment facility.   Brad was receiving his myofascial massage and was telling his therapist how I was on him all the time, about not drinking enough fluids, to drinking too much coffee.   I really thought his therapist was going to take my side, but, he looked at me point blank, smiled and softly said, “This is his journey, not yours.”

Brad is my late husband who lost his battle with cancer on August 10, 2014.   I felt my own life depended on him living, as every breath I took was for him.   He was my everything.   As simple as that.  I tried to do everything in my power to keep him alive.   I worked myself to exhaustion, caring for his every need.  I really thought it was in my control.   That if I gave it my everything, he would live.   When those words were spoken to me, I was annoyed at first, then I felt a huge weight fall off my shoulders.  At that moment, I felt relief.

When Brad died, I wanted to die too.   I was incredibly depressed and felt so lost.   I was abandoned by people I loved, for reasons I still cannot comprehend.     Despite my anger with God and the shift in my beliefs, I could feel Him pulling me up by the arm and saying,  “This is not what I have meant for you.  I made you stronger than this!”   It took awhile, maybe too soon for the onlookers, but eventually, I grappled my way out of that deep pit.

WHERE I AM TODAY

It’s been over three years now, though I still grieve, the pain is not so acute.   I marvel how God has designed our minds to have the ability to bury deep sorrow in the recesses of our hearts.  To allow us to move forward and enjoy life again.   Yes, there are times when something can trigger a memory and I can’t catch my breath.   I sometimes allow myself to indulge in the memory and cry bittersweet tears, but for the most part, I feel joy.   I feel joy that I got to be an important part of Brad’s life journey.    The love we shared and the memories are all tucked safely in my heart.

“This is his journey, not yours.”

Those words keep coming back to me when I have guilt of the happiness I feel today.   I’m in love again with a wonderful man, Jeremy.   I’m stronger than ever because of what I’ve been through.   I make no apologies for harnessing the strength because my husband died.   It is the strength I need to complete my own life’s journey.

Brad’s journey is now complete and I’m still travelling mine.   I will give it all that I have, and all that I am.   I will make mistakes and perhaps will have more sorrows to come.   Certainly there will be more joy.   I will continue to harness the strength I gain from each difficult path.  And for that, I still make no apologies.

 

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5 comments

Kristie March 17, 2018 - 5:26 am

I so needed this today! Thank you so much.

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Blossoming Widow March 17, 2018 - 5:10 pm

Makes me feel good knowing this has helped you Kristie. 🙂

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Susanna March 19, 2018 - 2:17 pm

I Lost my Dear sweet Sean 11/25/17 You described how I felt about him & still do. My heart feels so lost & empty. I just can’t move forward. I feel so stuck & lost. We took care of each other for 23 years. Loneliness is the hardest thing & my king size bed where he passed is so empty. His ashes are on my night stand. I can’t do this alone. We were supposed to grow old together. I am 52 😢😢😢

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Blossoming Widow March 20, 2018 - 5:48 am

My heart goes out to you Susanna. You’re in the darkest days of grieving right now and I’m so sorry for your loss. ‘Lost’ is the word that primarily sums up how I felt in those days. I didn’t know what to do with myself as everything I did, felt like I was just going through the motions. Feeling so angry, hurt, with deep sadness is very hard to go through. I wish I could give you a long hug right now. I did things like let my dogs sleep in the bed with me, I got hot stone massages, little things to get the power of touch. Hang in there and it’s okay to grieve. When you’re ready, you’ll start moving forward, my friend.

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Harrietta July 14, 2022 - 5:35 pm

This is so powerful. I am a 71 year old widow of almost 7 months. Some days it feels like forever some just this morning. I know the part of people leaving or never even being there Family and friends. I like the You make no apologies nor do I. Thank you

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