Two months after my husband died I started moving forward by travelling. Travelling is huge in Widow Therapy. At six months as a widow, I started dating. You can imagine what everyone thought about that! However, that’s not the most contentious thing I did that helped me the most to move forward with my life.
The most contentious thing I did as a grieving widow was speaking to a Medium. There, I said it. As a Christian, speaking to a Medium is a big no,no and I’m sure many will judge me for this. But this is between God and I, only He is my Judge.
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I’m not going to try to defend myself but if you read my post A Visit From Heaven, Brad Shows He’s Near , you’ll see what I went through. I needed more answers and I was in despair. Books on the after-life were my constant companions, books from Mediums like Patrick Matthews and George Anderson.
I do have to say, at that time I was grieving intensely, I felt abandoned by God, I was angry and I’ll admit that these books really helped me. So I decided to make an appointment with a Medium.
I was going to make an appointment with Patrick Matthews but it was going to be a three month wait and it was very expensive. While I was looking at reviews on Patrick Matthews, people kept mentioning another Medium, Georgia O’Connor. There were more positive reviews on her than Patrick Matthews. The wait for an appointment with her was just a few days at a fraction of the cost.
Of course, I was very skeptical but what I liked about her was that she suggested that you can register for the appointment using another name and to record the session.
My husband died in August 2014 and this was October 2014. I was very nervous and just didn’t know what to expect.
When we got on the phone she sounded just like a normal person and was very friendly.
She took a moment to collect herself and she said, ” There’s a man coming forward. He’s your husband. He’s not even saying hello first, he’s saying,’ So much for winning. He really thought he was going to win.’ He’s saying,’ he hopes you’re not disappointed in him.” I mean, you just don’t see that stuff on social media or Google it. That was my husband, Brad, she was hearing from!
There were so many things she said that only my husband and I would know. The way she conducted the session, it was so smooth, there wasn’t a lot of pauses like you see on TV and they weren’t vague. They were very specific, like I was actually speaking with Brad.
He said he was around me a lot, that he’s watching me and he’s trying to send me signs. He wished I didn’t grieve so hard.
One of the things he said that made me cry was, he said, ” Guess who I’m with, I’m with your mom and dad!” This made my heart explode, I was so happy to hear that. Both my parents passed away, a month apart, in 2009 and I met Brad in 2012 so he never met them.
I spoke to Georgia O’Connor three more times over the first year and every time, Brad came through. Each time I spoke to him, he would know what was going on at that time which truly confirmed for me that he’s still around.
Knowing this truly helped me move forward. Each time he would urge me to start dating again, that he would help me find the right one and that he wanted me happy. At times, he would push so hard that I would get annoyed and I’d tell him, “Give me time and let me grieve!”
Some might say that these are evil spirits that watch me and pretend to be Brad but these sessions only helped me through my grieving, not once did he suggest I do something evil or against God or denounce my faith.
Now I’m not suggesting for anyone else to do this, not at all. Everyone grieves differently and I can’t say if it’s a sin or not to speak to a Medium, so be very cautious. I do feel that today, God doesn’t hold this against me because despite my anger and doubting Him, I know he’s still moving in my life.
I no longer have a need to speak through Georgia O’Connor, I know Brad still visits me and I just talk to him like he’s right there. I’ve moved forward with my life. I have a wonderful boyfriend, Jeremy, and I’m in love again.
I know Brad helped to pick out Jeremy as they have so many similarities, two of which are, they’re both Sports fanatics and they’re both Steeler fans!
Brad is safe in my heart and my love for him is just as intense as ever, but one thing I’m experiencing in my love life is that love doesn’t divide,… it multiplies. It is possible to be in-love with two men but each love is different in their own way.
Brad had a journey to live in this life and though I mourn him, I feel privileged to have been loved by him and be a part of that journey. I also learned that I have my own journey to live and it is mine and mine alone. It is my responsibility to God to live it to the fullest, as best I can!
